Part of our daily living includes the general concern of how others might perceive us to be.
We enjoy ourselves whenever we’re home alone because we feel that we can relax and be who we truly are, outside of the public view.
This means that most people expend a considerable amount of energy in trying to live up to societal and personal expectations while in public.
We act differently when in public because we desire to be perceived as a higher version of ourselves. We usually act around people according to what we consider to be a better version of who we are than when we relax in private.
The reason why we find it laborious to uphold our better-selves in public, is because our inner psyche is constantly focused on returning to our private, baser selves. Part of the tiredness that we feel at the end of the day is due to the stress that we experience while trying all day to uphold an image of how we would like to be perceived. This is why in this informational age, privacy is a very esteemed commodity.
The reason why most people remain premature in their inner development is because they view their baser selves through the lens of pleasure and enjoyment. As long as you really like your baser-self, acting according to your higher-self will always be laborious.
The key to spiritual progress is to change our perception.
As long as we equate our baser selves with pleasure, we will not find a sense of reward when acting as our higher selves. But when we learn to take pleasure in our higher selves, then being our better selves is no longer laborious.
People that participate in philanthropic activities usually develop the ability to relax in public, because they learn to take pleasure in virtuous acts. This is why people who go to church a lot and practice a spiritual discipline, usually seem to have less stress, than those who don’t.
In order to find pleasure in acting according to our higher selves, one must begin with adjusting our private patterns of living according to our higher standards. Once we change our private patterns of living, being our higher-selves in public will become much more relaxing and enjoyable.
Prayer and meditation are intrinsic to the human psyche and its development, because they serve as nature’s means of self-examination, correction and goal-setting. Prayer and meditation are key tools that help to unify our inner-dualities in one purpose. In prayer and meditation we judge ourselves according to that inner higher-self that represents our perception of God’s perfect will manifested in our lives.
The spiritual formula of prayer and meditation is divinely designed to lead one to form higher-standards to strive for; in the hope to surpass at our core, that which people perceive in us.
Once your baser self has been raised to the standards of your higher self, and you feel comfortable in virtue, then you can strive towards higher goals in order to become in character, a greater person than what the external world can perceive.
When you raise your baser self to the standards of your higher self, then you’ll be in a position to progress spiritually. Otherwise, you will always be working on your baser self, which can never evolve because you take pleasure in its condition.
The moment your private and public lives are equalized, you begin to surpass the quality of your inner character, beyond perception.